Conflict Influencer™
ONE PLACE
for parents in high-conflict to get help 24/7.
ONE PLACE for parents who need help in high-conflict situations.
High-conflict is not a one-time situation. We're here to support parents at any stage of a divorce, separation, or any type of parenting arrangement.
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ONE PLACE
Conflict Influencer is different. It's not just a one-time consultation or online class. Not just a book or coaching session.
Conflict Influencer is one place for support when and where parents need it.
- Care Guide
- Conflict Influencer Class
- BIFF Coaching
- EAR Coaching
- Setting Limits Coaching
- Pre-mediation Coaching
- Decision Skills Coaching
- New Ways for Families Online Class
- Consultations with Bill Eddy or Megan Hunter
- Decision Facilitation
- Conflict Influencer Drop-in Support Communities
Parents can learn to influence conflict.
We started Conflict Influencer as a 90-minute 6-week online class for anyone who wanted to learn the necessary skills for navigating and surviving high-conflict.
It wasn't long before the class developed a waiting list and lots of requests for extended support. As we all realize, parents involved in high-conflict will be in that situation for years to come but often receive limited support due to finances or other circumstances.
Conflict Influencer is meant to be affordable and available 24/7 with a BIFF Guide to help parents decide the services that suit them best....and they can consume more services when they need it and take it easier when things are calmer.
The class helps them learn necessary skills, practice the skills, gain an understanding of the brain (everyone involved) and associated fear-driven behavior, and learn in the setting that works best for them, whether it's an online group class, an online self-directed class, books, coaching or even consultation when making difficult decisions.
Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter developed this site and the concept after 20+ years developing and teaching the skills. Parents have reported that they gained confidence, decreased stress, and ultimately became better parents despite the other parent's action or inaction.
Give clients the opportunity to get the help they need.
I'm a Husband/Dad
The skills I've taken from the books, the online courses and hands on training in this Conflict Influencer class are invaluable. I went from gearing up for court (ready with my lawyer), to mediation, to dinner with my entire family. I now have the confidence that I have the missing peace that can turn things around for my marriage and my family's future.
I'm A Mom
This [Conflict Influencer] class was just what I needed. Not only did it help me understand the mindset of a high conflict person, but it gave me real skills to help influence and calm the conflict. Furthermore, the community of people took this course to a different level that you can't find with a textbook or even one-on-one coaching...this became my group therapy and made an incredible difference!
I'm a Mom
This highly practical class is beyond my expectation. I got immediate results by using a variety of skills learned in class. The classmates were diverse including court professional, custodial and non custodial parents, & stepparents so I gained diverse perspectives. By completing this class I get life long support from the community so I won't feel alone in this long and hard journey!
What was the most helpful aspect of the Conflict Influencer class?
- Learning the areas I needed to improve both in triggering my wife and how to handle when I'm being triggered.
- Education is freedom…BIFF and I love proposals. EAR will expose too many vulnerabilities to my husband but helpful with others. This whole process with The High Conflict Institute has been amazing! Especially when I learned I get a two-fer and am able to attend and help facilitate future classes and others is so empowering! Thank you!
- BIFF and EAR were SO helpful, but really the practice of BIFFing in writing and in person, as well as talking with Megan and the other people - the community.
- BIFF for email
I am a Parent
"Megan's course has made a significant impact on my ability to handle various interpersonal situations effectively. Learning to de-escalate tensions, write clearly, respond thoughtfully, propose solutions, and make requests in a diplomatic manner transformed how I navigate both personal and professional interactions.
By keeping interactions brief, informative, friendly, and firm, I've not only reduced stress but also fostered more productive exchanges. This approach has helped in minimizing misunderstandings, streamlining communication, and ultimately finding constructive paths forward. Megan's Conflict Influencer course has been so beneficial to me in multiple aspects of life! If you're struggling with your co-parent, family, friends or work colleagues this course is for you!"
I am a Stepparent
"This is one of the most worthwhile courses for those navigating the often challenging environment of blended families. As a step parent you often feel helpless as to how you can support your family best during these high conflict situations, this course gives you the tools and strategies to confidently communicate for yourself and support your whole family in doing the same. In fact, the skills learned in this course are great communication tools for life in general and translate well with anyone to your kids, co-workers or even with each other. I loved the time and energy Megan gives in presenting this content, so that you leave having tried it out, with feedback, before using it in real life high conflict situations. I have learned so many new and lifelong skills from the Conflict Influencer course and am thankful for the small piece of freedom this has gained back in our family life. I would highly recommend it to anyone who is a step parent and/or parent, traversing a high conflict blended family environment, and seeking an easier and less stressful way forward."
I am a Stepmom
"We used a proposal (even after an extremely abusive message), ignored the nasty and simply replied with a proposal as we learned in your Conflict Influencer class, and it worked! My husband was elated as it saw him get 5 precious extra hours for his birthday with his little girl. Thank you!"
What is the single hardest thing you have to deal with in dealing with a high-conflict situation or relationship?
- Feeling like I'm in limbo. But it's slowly coming about.
- The sneak attacks - when everything seems to be going fine and then out of nowhere the high conflict person decides to throw a wrench in the gears. She wants everything her way all the time and if we don't follow suit it's a fight, or she punishes the kids/uses the kids against us. Learning how to BIFF her back when she messages her crazy thoughts and demands has really helped, so it's just the constant feeling of being on guard for "when is the next shoe gonna drop".
- Dealing with an ex who's full plate of all 5 high conflict personalities.
